Here’s what we do when you come here.

First, we’re going to have a chat with you to see what you need and why you’re here. Then, if you want to stay, one of us has to call your parents to let them know where you are and that you are safe. The law says that kids 14 and under can only stay 24 hours without parental permission, and that kids over 14 can stay up to 72 hours without parental permission. No permission after that – No stay.

Next, if you’re staying, the staff will go over HOUSE RULES* with you, and help you put away for safe keeping any items not allowed at the shelter – that would be things like weapons, smokes, lighters, bad attitudes and stuff like that. Might as well not even bring anything you’re not allowed to have by law.

If you are in school in Mecklenburg County, you will continue attending your home school – and we will take you to school and pick you up – ain’t we nice?

If you have a job, you may be able to continue working as long as you can arrange your own transportation – we ain’t that nice -- and the hours don’t interfere with the HOUSE RULES*.

While staying at The Relatives, you’re expected to help out around the house, follow HOUSE RULES* and participate in group activities. That’s right, we’re kind of like MTV’s Real World.

You are always free to leave The Relatives at any time. And if you don’t obey the HOUSE RULES* we may ask you to leave.

So you want to know about the staff?
The Relatives is a program operated by Alexander Youth Network. It is run by an executive director with a lot of experience in youth programs like this. At least two staff members are at The Relatives at all times, and most of them have college degrees in human services areas of study and experience in youth and family counseling. They all know a lot about what’s available in the area to help kids and families with just about any problem they could face.

And you want to know about the food?
We have regular meal times and the food is good, but this ain’t the Ritz. Fact is though, a lot of restaurants and other nice folks help us out with food so you aren’t always eating food fixed by the staff – thank the Lord!

* the rules aren’t that big a deal.